In the intimate covenant of Christian marriage, conflict is rarely a matter of if, but when. Two imperfect people, living in close quarters, will inevitably collide. It might start with something small. Maybe someone forgot to take out the trash. Maybe it’s a disagreement over finances, or a simple misunderstanding about the schedule. However, the spiritual danger does not lie in the disagreement itself. The danger lies in our impulsive reaction to it. When our spouse raises their voice or accuses us of something, our natural instinct is to defend ourselves. We want to correct the record. We want to match their intensity. We feel the urge to win the point. This is the moment Proverbs 15:1 warns us about. The scripture cautions that "a harsh word stirs up anger." A harsh word acts like adding gasoline to the fire. It transforms a solvable problem into a personal battle. Suddenly, the argument is no longer about the dirty dishes or the bank account. It becomes a contest of wills. We weaponize our words. We use our intimate knowledge of our partner to strike where it hurts. In doing so, we shift our focus from resolving the issue to defending our pride. This escalation does more than just ruin an evening. It invites the Enemy into the sanctuary of our home. It erodes the spiritual unity that God designed marriage to uphold.
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